by Ray Newman, radio and television commentator, attorney, educator, author

Saturday, March 20, 2010

FRIENDLY REVELATION

So love is blind. We know that. Everything is perfect, hunky-dory. Feeling that, itself, should warn us to go slowly. But love is the super-high gear, full throttle, pedal to the metal stuff. As that song says, "Feelings, nothing more than feelings".

Ergo, 50% divorce rate, 90% (who knows?) adultery rate.

Want to avoid them? And the heartache and financial ache, and the children ache that go with them? Want to give yourself a chance at happiness, at an enduring supportive truly loving and inspiring relationship?

Check out your lover's close friends. Who are they? What do they do for a living? For fun? What are their deeper interests, their values, their morals? What is the scope of their lives? Are they positive or negative-minded? Happy, fulfilled?

DO THEY INTEREST YOU?

They don't much? I know, I know, you are not planning on marrying the friends. Of course not. But be warned: Your life is heading for a major crash.

A friend is, as it were, a second self. Cicero

Friends are the thermometers by which one may judge the temperature of our fortunes. Blessington

Vision is the art of seeing the invisible. Swift

Friends reveal what love and desire conceal. Nachis

A word to the blind ... is sufficient?

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