by Ray Newman, radio and television commentator, attorney, educator, author

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

THE PRICE TAG

We know the upside of marriage.  What we do not often hear is the price we pay for that upside, so here is some straight talk on that price:

LOSS OF VARIETY...the spice of life...sexually, and to some extent, intellctually, psychologically, emotionally

LOSS OF SPONTANEITY...off the cuff spontaneous activities are harder to pull off when there are two involved, not one...rare that two will feel spontaneous about the same thing at the same time

LOSS OF SURPRISE...an offshoot of less variety...greater familiarity, more known, "knew you'd say that"

LOSS OF CHANGING COURSE...harder to change your mind when another is dependent on your living up to your word

CONFLICTING PRIORITIES..."I think this is more important," "We can't do this without first doing that"

NEED FOR MORE SCHEDULING...free wheeling upsetting to planner type

LOSS OF UNQUESTIONED BEHAVIOR... "Why'd you say that, you should've said this,"  "Can't understand why you would do that"

DOUBLE THE BURDENS...of psychological pressures, worries, fears

UNDESIRED RELATIVES...'nuff said

Small price to pay for that upside, yes?
























































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