We humans are fixated on the idea that there is one best way to do anything...everything ..."the right way", "the smartest way". Perhaps that idea emanates out of our having to choose at every moment the course of our lives, and the responsibility we feel for those choices. Perhaps that is one reason why many choose not to even try. Much easier for us to seek the one best way, and to do it that way...with little, if any, responsibility if it doesn't work ("wasn't really what I wanted to do, but it was the best way").
But there is no one best way to do just about anything...no one best way to be successful, no one best way to be happy I learned that 25 years`ago when I developed an irregular heartbeat. It took a while for the head of cardiology at one of the most renowned hospitals in the country to convince me "your heart does not have to beat regularly, though most people's hearts do...you are fine, don't worry, get on with your life".
The "best way" at any moment depends on all of the varying circumstances involved...and, most notably, it depends on YOU...your personality, your passion, your skill, your priorities, your preference. The great musicians did not write music the same way, the great writers did not write the same way, the great thinkers did not think the same way. It is a greatly confining error to believe the "one best way" myth, to buy into the "that's not the way it's done" drivel, to absorb the "how could you do it that way?" propaganda.
And once you reject those poisons, waiting there waiting to burst forth is the great joy of living YOUR life the truly one best way: YOUR WAY.
So, don't worry, get on with your life.
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